Fix a broken marriage — the quality of your life depends on the health of your relationship!
Do something: Fix a broken marriage or committed relationship — the quality of your life depends on this.
If you are in conflict with your partner, it will affect you even when you are away from each other. And if you have children, they too will Be disturbed by the conflict in your relationship.
Relationship success is a science. When you follow specific guidelines, you will have a great marriage or committed relationship.This does not mean everything will always go smoothly. Rather, there will be love, respect, and trust between you and your partner and these positive feelings will prevail over the occasional disagreement or disappointment.
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Do nothing: If you remain in relationship pain you will continue to experience loneliness, anger, rejection, and disrespect.
Likely, your miserable situation will even become worse over time. And if you have children, they too will suffer right along with you!
If you have serious relationship problems and you choose to do nothing, sadly you will live for many years a compromised life. The saddest part is, you could have changed all of this for the better had you known how and made an effort to do so.
I encourage you to find the courage and fix your broken marriage or committed relationship. Even working alone, you can make great strides forward in repairing and building a healthy marriage or committed relationship.
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Stop anger — live in peace!
Do something: Anger is love's poison. Anger and love cannot exist together. It is a fact — if you want a peaceful and happy relationship, anger cannot be present.
Most marriages that fail do so because of anger, not for other reasons that most people assume such as different opinions, money, chemistry, etc.
When there is anger, there is no respect, love, understanding, sensitivity, and intimacy. These are some of the compelling reasons to undertake a course in anger management so you can keep this destructive emotion away.
Learn how to stay calm in all situations and build a healthy, happy, and long-lasting marriage.
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Do nothing: The majority of relationships that fail, do so because of anger.
Anger has many faces. Anger includes shouting, sarcasm, deliberate not talking or cooperating, and threats.
Anger is the primary tool of disrespect, hate, emotional abuse, and domestic violence.
None of this bad behavior belongs in a civilized home. However, if you accept anger in your home, it will be a sad legacy you leave your children and others, including yourself.
If you just "accept" anger in your relationship, you will live in misery, perhaps bring the police into your home to stop aggression, and perhaps get divorced.
If you choose to live with each other in spite of the ongoing anger, you will end up hating each other. What a way to live each day of your life!
I encourage you to learn anger management. Thousands and thousands of people have learned how to stay calm when otherwise they would have become angry and so should you.
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Defeat depression and sadness — happiness is a birthright!
Do something: Improve your emotional health by reducing or elimination circumstantial depression and sadness.
The majority of individuals unintentionally depress themselves. Negative thinking and unrealistic expectations doom them to gloomy feelings.
The idea of a "chemical imbalance" is an unproven assertion fostered by the pharmaceutical industry as the cause of circumstantial sadness. Certainly, some people who suffer from circumstantial depression and sadness benefit from medication. However, at best it is a temporary solution. A better solution is learning how to properly manage your life.
Learn how to develop healthy thoughts and feelings so you feel good about yourself and your future.
Your valued relationship with your partner also suffers when you are depressed and sad. No one likes to be around negative and depressed people. Transforming your feelings of sadness into feelings of contentment and happiness is important to the health of your marriage or committed relationship.
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Do nothing: If you just "live" with depression you are dooming yourself to unnecessary unhappiness and placing great stress on your marriage.
As important as physical attraction is, so too is emotional attractiveness. Being depressed, which often leads to anger and moodiness, is emotionally ugly.
Your husband or wife will not want to be in your company when you are sad, depressed, and gloomy. As well, depressed individuals cant enjoy a healthy sex life. A sexless marriage puts your relationship at risk of many relationship ailments such as infidelity and divorce.
I encourage you to seek effective treatments for your circumstantial depression and sadness.
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Build confidence with healthy self-esteem — be the best you!
Do something: Feeling confident and strong is an inner feeling, and it is dependent on having healthy self-esteem. When you feel strong and empowered you are prepared to be an equal with your partner and others.
Also, good relationships are built on respect. When your self-esteem is strong, you will not accept disrespect or abuse. A person with healthy self-esteem would not tolerate abuse and either fix the broken marriage or exit the relationship.
When you take the position that "respect" is not negotiable, you will be doing your part to contribute to a healthy, happy, and long-lasting marriage.
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Do nothing: Low self-esteem and lack of confidence will cause emotional pain and contribute to an unhealthy marriage or committed relationship.
Often the difference between a victim of abuse and a person that does not accept abused the strength of his or her self-esteem.
Living with low self-esteem puts you at risk for depression, anxiety, and of others taking advantage of you.
Many emotional illnesses are rooted in low self-esteem.
I encourage you to seek solutions to low self-esteem.
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Learn to be assertive — get what is rightfully yours!
Do something: Being assertive is an essential life skill.
When you know how to be assertive, you can advocate for yourself and more easily get your needs met.
When you are assertive, you will have the emotional strength to be a positive contributor to your marriage or committed relationship.
When you are assertive, you can communicate effectively and interact with your partner in a healthier way.
Behaving assertively will reduce the likelihood of anger, anxiety, and depression and make you a more positive person who your partner will enjoy spending more time with.
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Do nothing: If you are not assertive, you are either aggressive or passive. Both of these character traits put you at risk for relationship breakdown.
Passive individuals cannot communicate effectively and honestly and cause frustration for both themselves and their partners.
Aggressive individuals ruin their relationships with anger and revenge.
Living without the skills needed to be assertive is like using an automobile engine without oil. The engine will overheat, seize and stop working. The same is in a marriage or committed relationship lacking healthy assertiveness skills. The relationship will breakdown and come to a halt leaving both partners polarized and lonely.
As well, at the root of most depression and anxiety is a "passive" lifestyle.
Learning to be assertive is easy. I have witnessed many people learning assertiveness skills and significantly upgrade their feelings of self-worth and their valued relationships at home and work.
If you need help, I encourage you to research the many ways you can learn how to be assertive.
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Learn to relax — it is the key to health!
Do something: Knowing how to relax is a skill everyone can learn.
Relaxation is essential to your physical and mental health. Ask any doctor, and he or she will tell you every disease is made worse by stress.
When you are relaxed, you are pleasant to be around. When you are tense, others will avoid you... especially your partner.
If you need help learning to let go of stress and how to hold on to peace, tranquility and calmness you have come to the right place.
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Do nothing: Accepting stress as part of your busy lifestyle will cause you many unpleasant and even dangerous problems. Stress will predispose you to his disease and relationship conflict.
When you emote negative energy, your partner will find you uncomfortable to be around and if he or she is also tense, there will be an increase in anger, negative judgments, and unpleasant interactions.
As well, living with chronic tension will adversely affect your mental, emotional and physical health.
There is nothing good about excessive stress!
If you find yourself often stressed, I encourage you to seek ways to reduce the stress and live a much healthier and happier lifestyle.
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Optimism — expect the best!
Do something: When you are optimistic, you will feel much better about the circumstances in which you live.
When you were optimistic, everything will seem easier to achieve and easier to overcome.
When you see the positives in your life, and you anticipate that good will happen in the future, automatically you are more pleasant to be around.
With a positive outlook, you will spread positive vibes to those around you, and they will seek your company.
Marriages and committed relationships work when they are pleasant. No one can force you or your partner to spend time together or stay together. The decision to be a functioning couple belongs to the two of you.
When you are optimistic and upbeat, and your partner is likewise, you will naturally want to spend abundant time together. And couple time together is the starting point for building a passionate and loving marriage.
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Do nothing: If you are a "negative person," you will be unpleasant to be around which includes being around yourself. You will not be happy even when alone.
Being negative is a definite relationship killer! And negativity also kills all positive self-feelings.
Without a positive mental attitude, life cannot be enjoyed!
Being pessimistic is worse than bad body odor. It will repel all those who want to get close and spend time with you. Even you won't want to spend time with yourself!
If you just live with being a negative person, likely you will find yourself alone and isolated.
It may be possible you will attract another negative person into your life. However, as you probably know regarding the poles of magnets, "two negatives repel." You may hang together, but you will both be devoid of fun and happiness.
What do they say... "Misery likes company?" Is being a black hole really the best you can do? If needed, get help to be a positive person.
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Happiness — it's a choice!
Do something: True, some people are naturally happy. And if you are one of those people, you are fortunate and can stop reading.
For the rest of you, you need to learn how to chose happiness and make "happiness" a habit.
Unhappy people are just that. Unhappy!
Sadly, unhappy people squander life's many opportunities to live a good life.
I have seen many people who have acquired the happiness habit and upgraded the quality of their life... and so can you.
Research has shown that we are naturally attracted to happy people.
Who do people like to go to... a crying baby or a smiling and laughing one? The same is true for adults, no one wants to be around a sad and negative person.
Having a good marriage or committed relationship requires you and your partner enjoy being with each other. Whether it is shopping together or making love... you must spend quality time together and "happiness" is the attraction energy that keeps both of you coming back for more.
Keep happiness strong and your relationship will flourish, and you will have a passionate marriage to enjoy for many years.
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Do nothing: If you just accept being sad, grumpy, and unpleasant to be around, the obvious will happen... no one will want to be around you. You won't even want to be around yourself!
Your partner will quit the relationship or at least want to. Simply, no one likes to be around unhappy people.
Having a depressed demeanor, unable to laugh or see the humor in life will doom you to a life of loneliness. Sad, yes — but you are not a victim; rather you have done this to yourself!
Just giving in to whatever negatives have happened to you and not realizing the importance of or caring to make an effort to be happy will probably be the defining characteristic of your life.
From your "unhappiness" everything else will fall into place. For example, the quality of your relationship with your your partner, your success or failure at work, and your personal experience as you live your life.
Even wealthy and privileged individuals can make themselves miserable... and they often do (some even kill themselves).
Happiness and sadness transcend material wealth and personal circumstances.
Let's go... be happy... and see where it takes you! Need help? Seek and you shall find.
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Be a good parent — it is best for your children and you!
Do something: The reason to be a good parent is obvious. Your son or daughter has only one childhood, and if you mess it up, it can never be recovered.
Equally important, is that a child's early years are the foundation for his or her adulthood. Being a good parent ensures a good childhood and increases the likelihood of your son or daughter will grow into a successful teen and adult.
Many marriages or committed relationships are destroyed by arguing and fighting over how to parent children. When this happens, it is a disaster for both parents and children.
Good parenting is good not only for the children, but also for your relationship with your partner.
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Do nothing: Bad parenting is one of the worst things anyone can do for many reasons. First and foremost, your children will be injured by this.
Next, your marriage or committed relationship will be damaged.
And if this isn't enough, likely your children will grow up to be rude and rowdy and cause you problems when they become teens and adults.
Ignoring a parenting problems is like ignoring a second-floor toilet that is leaking — doing so can cause huge damage to your home. Bad parenting will also lead to major problems for your children, you, and your family.
If you are having parenting problems, please.... please... don't ignore them. Get the help you need by reading books or consulting with others who are knowledgeable about how to be a good parent.
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Learn to stop worrying — live with peace of mind!
Do something: Most worrying serves no purpose. Worrying does not solve problems or make you feel better.
Worrying does take away any positive feeling you may have about yourself, others and life. In other words, "worrying" is extremely dysfunctional in all ways.
When you worry and feel strong anxieties, you do not want to be around others, and others do not want to be around you. Worrying is a relationship killer! Worrying kills positive feelings between two people, communication and all types of intimacy.
True, it is human nature to worry. However, that does not mean you cannot and should not try to regulate it or even eliminate it.
With the correct effort, many people have learned how to reduce their worry, eliminate anxiety, and panic attacks, and go on to enjoy a relatively care free life. And with the right effort, so can you!
Your mind is a very powerful organ in your body — put it to use to create "peace of mind" and a happy life.
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Do nothing: If you let worry and anxiety over take your life, you may become an emotional cripple.
Without challenging worry, it can easily slip into anxiety, and then depression. When this happens, you will feel helpless and hopeless.
Naturally, your marriage or committed relationship will suffer. You will find yourself isolated, and others will avoid you. People don't like to be around a person who "can't stop worrying" and has a fearful expression on his or her face.
If worrying and anxiety continues for months, it can eventually reshape your personality, and one day you will discover you are a different person... A person that does not know how to have fun and enjoy life.
If you worry excessively, there is a lot you can do to reduce it or eliminate it. I encourage you to find the help you need.
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Motivation to lose weight — be healthy and increase romance!
Do something: There are many diets available to help you lose weight. Most of these diets are good! However, there is one missing ingredient... and this is the "willpower" needed to stick with the particular diet of your choice.
When you are unable to stick to your diet, the results are obvious! You will grow and grow wider and wider!
On the other hand, when you acquire the tools needed to stay committed to the diet of your choice, you will become slim and trim and stay that way.
You want to feel your best, then you need to be in control of your weight. Your self-esteem and relationship popularity — right or wrong — depends on how you look.
Many relationships have an unspoken problem. It is such a sensitive topic that it is rarely raised! Here it is: Being overweight kills sexual desire.
A sexless marriage is a marriage of disaster. Romance, love, and sex are closely intertwined. Remove one of the three, and likely your marriage will be on the rocks.
On the other hand, being physically healthy and attractive is a great aphrodisiac to ensure that both you and your partner are attracted to each other, and that you find together many enriching moments.
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Do nothing: I know, how a person appears is a personal matter, and we should not be judged by our appearance. I agree with you, and I wish it were this way, but it is not!
So the facts are, whether you like them or not, your partner will be influenced by how he or she sees your body.
If you let yourself go, regardless of yourself explanation, your marriage or committed relationship will take a nosedive.
Being physically unattractive to your partner will lead to less or no sex, which will then lead to less or no connection between the two of you. Eventually, you will find yourself alone and lonely, even though you may be a wonderful person with a great personality.
Research has demonstrated that in all aspects of our lives, how we appear to others strongly influence how they relate to us. This is true regarding your partner as well!
Get trim... get healthy... and be attractive. It is worth the effort!
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Stop emotional abuse — living with dignity is a human right!
Do something: Understanding you are being abused is the first step to freeing yourself.
You need to know the truth of your situation, that your abuse — be it emotional abuse, verbal abuse, or psychological abuse — is completely wrong, that it is not your fault, and that it needs to stop.
Knowing this, that in all situations all types of abuse is wrong, you can then design a plan to stop the emotional abuse by either correcting your relationship or quitting it. Staying in an abusive marriage or committed relationship should not be an acceptable option.
(If you are being physically or sexually assaulted, it is essential you go outside your relationship to get help from appropriate professionals such as the police, therapists, and doctors.)
Don't put your head in the sand and pretend emotional abuse, verbal abuse, or psychological abuse is not happening. To do so will only allow your dangerous situation to get worse and cause more injury to you and your children if you have them.
Learn everything you can about abuse so you can fee yourself and live with dignity and respect — with or without your current partner.
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Do nothing: Freedom, dignity, and respect are a human right. If you allow yourself to be emotionally abused, verbally abused, and psychologically abused, all of these rights are stripped away. If you do nothing to stop the abuse, you have become your of abuser's prisoner!
When emotional abuse is allowed to exist over an extended period of time, it will erode your self-esteem, confidence, and you may even begin to believe that you have done something wrong that justifies your partner abusing you. In effect, you will now have been brainwashed to believe your abusive partner's lies!
Don't let this happen to you. Don't let someone destroy your life. Don't live in fear! It is your birthright to be free and happy! Make it happen — stop the abuse.
Emotional abuse, verbal abuse, psychological abuse is harmful and inexcusable. In many cases, when it is allowed to continue, it can progress to domestic violence. Tragically, many people are killed by their partners.
Get help and stop the abuse — regardless of what kind it is.
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Be emotionally mature — successful relationships require this!
Do something: Selfishness, insensitivity, anger, stubbornness, and the like are all signs of emotional immaturity. All of these bad character traits will eventually destroy a committed relationship.
No one can be happy and comfortable with a person of bad character.
The good news is character can be shaped for the positive.
Exposed to the right information and the right people, it is possible to 'speed up' emotional growth.
One of the unique characteristics of humankind ability to change. This human resource, the ability to change, can be used to improve one's relationship IQ and thereby increase the likelihood of a successful marriage and committed relationship.
Personal growth in is for everyone. And the more we evolve as human beings, the healthier will be our relationships.
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Do nothing: Not everyone has the emotional maturity and good character necessary to succeed in a committed relationship.
Immature individuals ruin their marriages and committed relationships and then suffer because they are now divorced and alone.
If you do nothing about this serious relationship deficit, your relationship will be an unhappy one and may eventually end in divorce.
Being successful in a relationship requires skills that only mature people have. Don't let your relationship go down the drain because you or your partner lacks emotional maturity and relationship common sense.
Seek help. It is there if you look for it.
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Heal from infidelity — trust and love depend on this!
Do something: If your relationship has been hit with infidelity, it is essential that you undergo a rigorous recovery process to regain trust, security, and love.
There are many good resources that you can acquire that will help you rebuild your marriage or committed relationship.
Infidelity needn't kill your marriage or committed relationship. You can recover and should you and your partner choose to, it may even be possible to get closer and happier than ever before.
Infidelity cannot be buried. It needs to be put front and center in your lives for an extended period of time until it naturally exits.
Many couples require the assistance of a skilled and caring relationship specialist to help with the recovery journey.
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Do nothing: Infidelity shatters trust, security, and love.
Without 'specific and consistent efforts' to heal from this relationship wound, the negative affects from infidelity will never go away.
It is natural for people to avoid pain. Whether it is physical, emotional, or mental. Unfortunately, it is very common after infidelity has occurred and the screaming and crying subsided, to just forget about everything.
Doing so is a grave mistake. Doing so leave your relationship broken forever. Relationship trust, love, and security will never fully return.
Like an infection that is allowed to exist under the skin that then spreads to the rest of the body, so too, infidelity if left untreated will spread relationship poison to every part of your marriage or committed relationship.
If you have been struck by infidelity, get the help you need. Don't let being cheated by your partner become a relationship death-sentence.
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