PREVENT DIVORCE [and have the best marriage or committed relationship possible]

Divorce is nasty and should be considered only when there are no other options. This is especially true when there are children. In most situations, even if you and your partner split and 'your nightmare' is over, for your child(ren) the nightmare is now theirs. For most of their lives they will need to live with the many pains coming from a broken home.

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A better solution is for you and your partner to learn how to love and respect each other. A good marriage or committed relationship is science — when you know what to do, and you do it, you will have a healthy, happy, and long-lasting relationship.

Become a Marriage and Committed Relationship Builder using our Marriage-Intelligence. Learn how to PREVENT DIVORCE.

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Hi, this is marriage therapist Abe Kass MA RSW RMFT CCHT,

I have worked twenty-five years plus as a professional marriage and committed couples therapist helping individuals prevent divorce and relationship conflict.

I have come to understand that a good marriage and committed relationship is governed by universal relationship principles. I have identified the exact principles needed to build and maintain a healthy, happy, and long-lasting relationship. I call this approach Marriage-Intelligence .

fix a broken marriage, marriage builder, free marriage counselingMarriage-Intelligence is for anyone in a committed relationship — regardless of culture, nationality, or religion.

In the process of my work as a professional marriage counselor, I have discovered eight marriage rules that when followed will automatically build for you a healthy marriage or committed relationship.

The choice to live by these eight marriage rules is not because an authority is telling you to follow them, but because you understand the reasoning behind each of one of these marriage rules and they make sense to you.

fix a broken marriage, marriage builder, free marriage counselingIn the past, religious, social, financial, and sexual considerations forced individuals to remain married even when they were exhausted by their marriage problems and unhappy. Love in marriage were not essential ingredients in past generations. When love was missing, our grandparents, even when they were unhappy with each other, stayed together and raised their children and then together died of old age. 

This ability to endure, as it was in past generations, no longer exists for most couples!

Contemporary social values and opportunities have changed marriage forever. We all live in a very different world than that of our grandparents and great-grandparents! For us, love and marriage are like a hand and a glove — it is very difficult to have one without the other.

Contemporary times offers men and women the opportunity to be single or coupled. Men and women decide to live as a couple only when they see a clear advantage over life as a single individual.

In these modern times, individuals easily go from living together to detaching and living separate or divorced… and then in a flash start all over again with someone new. Marriages and committed relationships in these contemporary times are fragile.

Relationships more than ever succeed precisely because they are loving. And when a marriage or committed relationship isn't loving, one way or another it will fall apart.

fix a broken marriage, marriage builder, free marriage counselingContemporary marriages and committed relationships need passion!

Passion is a personal feeling; it fuels the love keeping it strong and healthy. 

Passion is an internal feeling of attraction to your partner that overrides moments of disappointment or hurt.

Passion is the attraction you and your partner have for each other.

Without passion, you and your partner won't want to spend time together. When you and your partner don't like to be together, your relationship is in serious trouble!

A good marriage or committed relationship is science! When you know the formula, or as I call them, the "marriage rules," you will then and you let them guide your relationship, you will automatically generate passionate in your marriage or committed relationship

Marriage-Intelligence teaches you how to use your everyday relationship behavior to generate passion and build lasting love.

I call these "marriage rules" The 8 Acts of Love, since when you perform an Act of Love you are adding more "passion" to your marriage or committed relationship.

Here describe briefly are The 8 Acts of Love (If you want more information on each Love Act, you can buy my book on Amazon. See below.). These are the same "relationship rules" I teach my paying clients in my Marriage-Intelligence therapy sessions and you get an outline of these marriage or committed relationship rules for free:

Free marriage counseling Love Act #1: Be Kind

fix a broken marriage, marriage builder, free marriage counselingKindness between you and your partner is the substance that binds the two of you together. In large doses, kindness increases marital health, happiness, and longevity. Kindness is the essential ingredient found in all successful marriages.

If your marriage or committed relationship lacks kindness, then it is time to turn it around. It is time for you to immediately behave kindly with your partner.

Being kind is a unilateral behavior! You can decide on your own to be kind and then follow through with your good intentions. Being kind does not involve anyone else.

And in "being kind," your partner may be inspired to do likewise.

Have ever wondered how to fix a broken marriage? Answer: The starting point to fixing your marriage if it is broken is with unconditional kindness.

Kindness is one of the most important of all the relationship building skills available to couples wanting a healthy, happy and long-lasting marriage.

Free marriage counseling Love Act #2: Be Without Anger

fix a broken marriage, marriage builder, free marriage counselingBeing anger-free is necessary if you and your partner are to feel love and passion for each other.

Why is being anger-free so important? Simple, anger and love don’t mix.

Anger kills your marriage or committed relationship on two fronts: One, there is no love and; two, it is replaced with fear. And no one wants to live in a cold, lonely and fearful marriage.

Marriage can and should be warm, friendly and peaceful.

Clinical experience has taught that anger is the cause of more relationship breakups and misery than all other marriage problems combined.

Those marriages that suffer from anger are constantly challenged by how to fix a broken marriage. The pain and misery anger afflicts is great and long-lasting.

If you want to love and be loved — get rid of your expressions of anger. This is one of the most important relationship building skills available to married couples.

Without anger, you can be calm, patient, nonjudgmental, and easy going… character traits that will make you irresistible to your partner.

Free marriage counseling Love Act #3: Be Exclusive (Don't fraternize with the opposite sex!)

fix a broken marriage, marriage builder, free marriage counselingExclusivity is the essence of marriage or a committed relationship — it is what defines your relationship.

Without exclusivity, your unique relationship with your partner could then be replicated with a work colleague, neighbor, friend, or casual acquaintance. And if that were to be the case, that special magic that you have with your husband or wife would be lost, and your marriage would be drained of its passion and sanctity.

Exclusivity is the intimate physical and emotional experience you and your partner share with each other, and it is self-understood that it is to be shared with no one else.

If you are concealing from your partner a relationship with someone outside your marriage, this is a strong signal that you should not be having this relationship at all!

Exclusivity is a "must have" relationship building skill.

Free marriage counseling Love Act #4: Be Accepting

Living comfortably with another person requires mutual acceptance.

Head this free marriage advice from a professional that knows. A marriage lacking in acceptance will be a marriage of friction, rejection, and condemnation. Such a marriage or committed relationship will be bitter, and it may even become a relationship not wanted. 

Don't think in terms of making your partner a "better person." Don't chair the partner improvement committee. To do so is an invitation for relationship problems. Rather, embed in your mind the mantra: "I am okay; you are okay." 

Yes, there are times to share with your partner your needs or disappointments, but they must be done in a very controlled, respectful and constructive way… and most importantly, infrequently. 

When your partner senses your accepting attitude, he or she will feel loved and you will never struggle with the question of how to fix a broken marriage. Your marriage — when the two of you are accepting of each other — will be happy and healthy.

Free marriage counseling Love Act #5: Honor Your Partner

fix a broken marriage, marriage builder, free marriage counselingBe sensitive to, and protective of, your partner’s honor and feelings of self-worth. Carefully order your words so as not to shame or embarrass.

Let your feelings be a guide to help you measure your words and actions. Ask yourself, "If this was said about me, how would I feel?" If the answer is,"embarrassed, humiliated or shamed," then don't say it to your partner or say it to another person about your partner.

Honor is fragile. When pulled and twisted it is difficult to set right. Take this free marriage advice to heart and you will eliminate much relationship pain.

Don’t carelessly or maliciously tarnish your partner’s image in the eyes of others leaving him or her feeling low, worthless, unloved, and unprotected.

Honor your partner, praise him or her directly and in the presence of others. You will be rewarded with your partner’s love, loyalty, and affection.

Free marriage counseling Love Act #6: Be Private

fix a broken marriage, marriage builder, free marriage counselingMarital and committed relationship intimacy would cease were you or your partner to believe that sharing with each other personal details would later be disclosed to others; fear of exposure would cause an emotional withdrawal from the relationship.

Privacy is paramount to a healthy marriage. It is essential if there is to be intimacy, trust, and goodwill. Guard your privacy — build a fence around your marriage and don't let anyone in.

The personal details you know about your partner, and he or she about you, must be kept to yourselves. Knowing that what you and your partner discuss will be kept confidential, encourages the sharing of personal information.

Not sure what should be kept private? Ask your partner.

Keep your marriage or committed relationship private. Your partner will appreciate the sanctity you create, and he or she will respect you for your sensitivity to his or her feelings. Head this valuable and free marriage advice for a healthy relationship.

Free marriage counseling Love Act #7: Be Loyal

Loyalty is an essential quality found in all well-functioning marriages or committed relationships. Loyalty is not based on judgment or opinion. Rather, it is based on your unconditional decision to side with your partner.

Loyalty is an extremely powerful tool to strengthen your marriage or committed relationship. It demonstrates to your partner that he or she is the number one person in your life; disloyalty proves otherwise.

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Being loyal may not always be easy — but it is always the right thing to do!

Be loyal to your partner and insist upon the same in return. Loyalty strengthens your relationship and gives each of you a feeling of safety, being loved, being cared for, and being respected.

Free marriage counseling Love Act #8: Live With Love

fix a broken marriage, marriage builder, free marriage counselingLove fuels feelings to be close and involved with your partner and he or she with you. It is the source of attraction that keeps the relationship exciting.

However, love doesn't always come automatically. Rather, there are things you do and things you don't do that increase or decrease the amount of love between you and your partner. When you perform The 8 Acts of Love as recommended, you automatically generate passion and increase the amount of love in your marriage.

Love binds you and your partner together.

As blood is to the body, love is to a marriage. When your love is healthy and in abundance, your life is happy, your family secure, and your future bright.

There is much truth to the saying: "Love makes the world go round."

Bickering, fighting, disrespecting is marriage rot. The antidote to "marriage rot" is having a passionate marriage — a marriage filled with love, commitment, enthusiasm, fun, and romance. Using The 8 Acts of Love to guide your marriage or committed relationship will automatically generate the passion needed to build a loving marriage.

Need more help? Buy this professional guide on how to use Marriage-Intelligence to generate passion and build automatically a loving and long-lasting marriage or committed relationship.

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A successful marriage or committed relationship is a science. A successful marriage or committed relationship is not chemistry, luck, or genetics. When you know 'how,' you can build a great connection with your partner. In this book, The 8 Marriage Rules for a Passionate Marriage, you will learn the eight most essential rules that when followed will lead to friendship, respect, love, and passion.

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Additional supportive books below:

How to Make a Man Happy

Contributing to 'your man's' happiness gives you pleasure. However, doing so is not always easy. In this book, How to Make a Man Happy, you will learn the emotional ingredients your male partner needs to feel content and recognize you as a valued part of his life.

Relationship Listening Audiobook

Like a bridge that spans a great divide, words forge a bond between two people. In this audiobook,  Relationship Listening — attract the people you like and bring them close to you, you will learn the most direct way to build emotional intimacy. It's simple... if you don't know how to listen, validate, and understand, there will be no connection. With this audiobook, you will learn how to use simple techniques to build lasting love, trust, and closeness.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

This book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, is a relationship classic. The author explains in easy to understand words the unique needs of men and women seeking to have a positive connection with one another. Men and women are different... and without using these differences is a skilled way, the couple will feel misunderstood and unfulfilled. Learn how to use these gender differences to generate positive feelings and build a loving and lasting relationship.

Divorce Busting - a step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again

Do you want to tackle divorce prevention 'head-on?' Then this is the book for you. Divorce Busting — a step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again, makes very deep and effective marriage therapy easy to use and accessible to everyone. Base on Solution Focused Brief Therapy, this book will guide you out of your relationship problems by highlighting 'what is good in your marriage' and doing more of it. Simple... and highly effective. This book is for everyone in a committed relationship.

The 5 Love Languages

Two people make a couple. However, each individual is unique and different from his or her partner. This well-read book, The 5 Love Languages, defines and shows how to use these natural differences to make a marriage or committed relationship loving. When you understand your partner's essential nature, and he or she yours, together you can build a harmonious and happy marriage or committed relationship. 

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

The author, John Gottman has been in the research trenches long enough to have 'discovered' what makes relationships work. This book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, present the lessons learned by the author in from his "Love Lab" where he and colleagues observed couples in action. Marriage is a science. As such, this book is one of the foremost instruction manuals on how to build a positive relationship.

Nonviolent Communication

We humans are social creatures. To think otherwise is foolish! As social beings, we live together in close quarters. The greatest example our social nature is our instinct to couple with a life partner. Our life experience is primarily determined by the quality of our relationships. This book, Nonviolent Communication, provides detailed instruction on how to form healthy and positive relationships using proven communication techniques. This book is so important, its lessons should be taught in every high school along with sex education. If you didn't learn healthy communication then, it is not too late to learn it now ;).

Difficult Conversations

Somethings in life are not easy to do. However, when you know how, they can be made "easier." Learning from this book, Difficult Conversations, you will be given relationship tools to tackle your most difficult and important communication tasks. Just about every communication challenge is covered. The benefits of being able to communicate effectively will be felt in all your relationships. Your most valued relationship — your marriage or committed relationship — will be significantly enhanced when you and your partner can connect in a deep and meaningful way.
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Strong Self-esteem Audiobook

Healthy relationships require two healthy individuals. Low self-esteem will negatively on your marriage or committed relationship. For example, low self-esteem will interfere with being assertive. Use this simple program to build your self-esteem muscles.
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Optimism and Positive Thinking Audiobook

"Negative individuals" are avoided. Positive individuals attract others. Just as you need to attend to your physical impression, so too your emotional impression! Be the kind of person your partner wants to spend time with. Positive thinking and optimism are attractive character traits.
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Anger Management Audiobook

Anger is the primary cause of marital conflict and divorce. Protect the love you and your partner have — keep anger far away. This simple and easy to use program will dramatically help you eliminate or reduce anger. This program has already been successfully used by thousands of individuals.

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Assertiveness Training Audio Book

Don't let others take advantage of you. If you do, you will be resentful and angry. Don't expect your partner to be a "mind-reader" and know what you want. Learn to "speak-up" and get your get the cooperation you need to get your legitimate needs.

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Defeat Circumstantial Depression

Simple  — people don't like to be around "sad" individuals. Get an all "natural" approach to overcoming circumstantial depression using the power of your mind! Being without depression and feeling good about yourself is a great relationship booster. 

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Enter Happiness Audiobook

You can create happiness... You can when you know how! Happiness is a relationship magnet. Learn how to bring happiness into your life, and be attractive to your husband, wife or partner. 

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Lose Weight Audiobook

Be attractive to your partner using this program that is different from any you have tried before. This weight loss approach strengthens your motivation to shed those extra pounds and keep them off. Without motivation, even the best diet won't work. Why? Simple, you won't stick to it. With this revolutionary approach, YOU CAN TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE — increase your motivation and decrease your weight.

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Anxiety and Panic Relief Audiobook

Solve your anxiety and worry problems using the most natural treatment available — "your mind." When calm, your partner will enjoy being around you! 

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Relax and Live Stress Free Audio Book

Is stress robbing you of your health and happiness? Do others complain that you are "always" stressed and difficult to be around? Get help... get this program that will teach how to relax naturally.

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Anger Management Workbook

There are many convoluted and wordy anger management books in the marketplace! There is "only one" that is simple, easy to use, and gets straight to the point — Anger Management Workbook with anger management worksheets — this is the anger management book that has it all!

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Contribute to a peaceful family with authoritative parenting

Authoritative Parenting is the most critical part of parenting. Use whatever good parenting strategy you want. However, if you are NOT an authoritative parent you will fail in your application since you will be unable to influence your child or teen. Learn how to organize your family into a peaceful and cooperative community.

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Learn to assert yourself and get what you need!

Assertive behavior means knowing how to successfully say “no” and how to get for yourself that which is reasonable. However, if you do not have “ assertive behavior” you will be stressed, frustrated, and for some, this can lead to acute anxiety and chronic depression.

Prevent divorce using these FREE marriage and committed relationship building tools

Here is a collection of free marriage counseling and committed relationship self-help tools for you to use to prevent divorce and make your marriage or committed relationship healthy, loving, happy and long-lasting. Benefit from these relationship building tools; make your family a wonderful place to live. Marriage Builders are not perfect —  but they are happier! 

Our "relationship tools and resources" are listed in the following sequence to help you find what you need: 

1 - Videos
2 - Quizzes
3 - Guides
4 - Essential Information

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QUIZ - FREE Healthy Relationship Quiz

Learn about the health of your marriage or committed relationship and what areas you and your partner — as Marriage Builders — need to improve.

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QUIZ - FREE Anger Management Test

Excessive anger is the primary cause of marital and committed relationships breakdown. Like high blood pressure, it is often difficult for individuals to know what is "too much" anger. Find out your anger level  — take this anger management test. Get bonus anger management tips.

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QUIZ - Our FREE Library of Relationship Quizzes

Are you in a healthy relationship? Do you need anger management lessons? Is your partner emotionally abusive? Do you have more questions? 

MAP - Marriage and Committed Relationship Map

Marriage and Committed Relationship Map that will help you identify deficiencies in your relationship and accompanying tools to strengthen these areas of behavior. 

GUIDE - Marriage Builders Tool Box

Relationship problems are no different from medical problems. If you don't find a "solution" to improve or solve the problem you will continue to suffer and likely the situation will become worse. Learn what happens when you contribute to a relationship a solution and what happens when you don't.

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GUIDE - Learn the Many Ways Anger Displays Itself

Identifying anger is key to controlling it. Learn some of the many 'faces' of anger as an aid to anger management.

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GUIDES - FREE Reference Guides on many Topics that Impacts Relationships

Your one page reference guide highlights the three primary tasks necessary to achieve your specific goal. Download this PDF directly to your electronic device. If you like you can print it and keep it with you at all times to review as needed.

INFORMATION - Marriage-Intelligence Blog

You will find in this informative blog FREE marriage counseling tips on how to keep your marriage or committed relationship healthy, happy, and loving. This is the best way to prevent divorce.