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This Relationship GPS Map is based on solid research in psychology, hypnosis, and education as well as the author's many years of direct clinical experience working with couples.

This is how it works...

Each letter in the acronym A-PLUS represents one of the 5-Categories of Positive Relationship Behaviors. Having an A-PLUS relationship is your goal.

When you achieved an A-PLUS relationship... congratulations... you have a healthy, happy, and long-lasting marriage or committed relationship.

These 5-Categories of Positive Relationship Behaviors, which are based on the 19-Relationship Principles, when applied correctly to your relationship, 'prove' to your partner your love for him or her, and in return will then bring you your partner's love.

The A-PLUS acronym has been constructed to help remember how to make your marriage or committed relationship GREAT.


Click or Tap below to play video on how you can use this Relationship GPS Map:

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The Relationship GPS Map
for a Healthy, Happy, and Long-lasting
Marriage or Committed Partnership

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Instructions

1. Scroll down through each one of the five sets of relationship behaviors that cover the 19 relationship principles to a healthy, happy, long-lasting relationship. Identify where you and/or your partner are deficient and learn what you need to do to improve.

2. Click on the link when available and a corresponding exercise will open-up in a new tab on your browser. This exercise will help you and your partner strengthen this particular part of your marriage or committed relationship that needs improvement. Note: Some exercises are used for more than one category.

3. Once you have the exercise on your device, it may be easier for you to use if you then print it on paper so you can then write your answers. To put the exercise in print format Click the Print Friendly Button.

[This page and the corresponding exercises may be shared and used by others including professionals. If they are posted on a website they must have a 'do follow' link back to this site and its corresponding page. This material is copyrighted and cannot be used for commercial purposes without written consent from the author, Abe Kass]

Let's start now... 

Here are the 5 sets of relationship behaviors and the 19 Relationship Principles:

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1. ABSTAIN from 'fraternizing with the opposite sex.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Infidelity

  • Loss of trust — you are forever suspicious of your partner

  • Creating worry and fear as to what your partner is doing when away from home (is he or she involved in a romantic relationship outside your primary relationship?)

Click to go to this exercise:

How to prevent infidelity

Surviving infidelity (which has already occurred) guidelines

Affair prevention relationship rules (if one had an affair in the past)

 

2. ABSTAIN from making 'independent decisions (not consulting one's partner)' on important matters. This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Competitive tension between you and your partner

  • Mistrust as to what your partner has done

  • Suspicion you partner is not looking after your interest and is not considering your feelings

  • Accusations that important matters are being hidden from you

  • Misunderstandings as to why a particular and important decision was made

Click to go to this exercise:

The importance of making important decisions together

How to make decisions together

 

3. ABSTAIN from 'excessive use of addictive substances.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Ill-health that impacts not only you, but everyone else in your family in many ways

  • Financial irresponsibility (drugs and alcohol are expensive)

  • Abandoning the fundamental commitments of the relationship (as a substance abuser you are behaving irresponsible)

  • Putting the future of the relationship at risk

Click to go to this exercise:

Is there substance abuse in your marriage or committed relationship?

 

4. ABSTAIN from 'emotional and sexual withdrawal.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Cruelty

  • Suspicion of cheating

  • Fear, anxiety, and worry as to why there is no sex

  • Infidelity

Click to go to this exercise:

 Fix a sexless marriage or committed relationship

 

5. ABSTAIN from 'secrecy.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Extreme and/or unacceptable behavior that can put individuals and the relationship at risk

  • Lies and deception that tear the relationship apart

  • Growing apart, excluding your partner from participating in your life

Click to go to this exercise:

Secrecy ruins a relationship

 

6. ABSTAIN from 'anger (all forms).' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Fear and 'hatred' toward the one expressing anger

  • Hostility being expressed in every relationship interaction

  • Violence and injury

  • Police involvement

  • Total relationship breakdown

  • Toxic environment for all family members

Click to go to this exercise:

Take a FREE Anger Management QuizDo you need to learn how to deal with anger? 

Learn how to identify anger and embed this awareness in your mindA simple anger management exercise

Take the Emotional Abuse TestAre you living with an emotionally abusive relationship?

Learn to forgiveHow to deal with expressions of anger from the past

 

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7. PEACE requires 'loyalty.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Feeling betrayed

  • Feeling unimportant

  • Feeling abandoned

  • Not trusting your partner

  • Being hurt by your partner

Click to go to this exercise:

Be a couple-team

 

8. PEACE requires 'problem solving.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Inability to plan for the future

  • Arguments about the children

  • Attempts to communicate that end in misunderstanding, frustration and anger

  • Feeling 'stuck'

Click to go to this exercise:

Decision making communication

 

9. PEACE requires 'realistic expectations.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Constant disappointment

  • Conflict and fighting

  • Relationship breakdown

  • Self-esteem breakdown

  • Expressions of anger to force issues to go in your favor

Click to go to this exercise:

Catch your partner doing something right

 

10. PEACE requires 'raising healthy children.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • To ensure children grow up emotionally healthy

  • Parents fighting about the children

  • Toxic home atmosphere

  • Breakdown in family peace and harmony

Click to go to this exercise:

Getting started as a stepparent 

 

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11. LOVE requires spending 'enjoyable time together.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Feeling unimportant

  • Living together, but feeling lonely

  • Always feeling 'tense' when around your partner

  • Always 'bickering' when together

  • No 'time' for each other

Click to go to this exercise:

Acts of love

Loving and caring behavior

 

12. LOVE requires 'emotional intimacy.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Feeling alone

  • Not knowing the person you live with

  • Not knowing the reason you are together

  • Relationship is in danger of breaking apart

Click to go to this exercise:

Emotional-closeness

 

13. LOVE requires 'sexual intimacy.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Feeling unloved

  • Feeling despised

  • Worrying about an outside person having a romantic relationship with your partner

  • Feeling unneeded

  • Feeling unfulfilled

Click to go to this exercise:

How to have a sexually healthy and satisfying marriage or committed relationship

Fixing a sexless marriage or committed relationship

 

14. LOVE requires a comfortable 'relationship with extended family. This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Conflict between partners

  • Anger and retaliation

  • Interference in 'the couple relationship' by outside family members

  • Deep and long-lasting resentment

Click to go to this exercise:

Give your partner love through being 'good' to his or her extended family 

 

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15. UNDERSTANDING requires 'good communication.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Feeling unknown

  • Feeling unappreciated

  • Misunderstanding each other

  • Feeling distant and disconnected

Click to go to this exercise:

Learn to listen

Effective communication

Practice listening — 'Just listen'

Advanced communication skills

 

16. UNDERSTANDING requires 'knowing who your partner is and their needs.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Not knowing 'what are' reasonable expectations

  • Not knowing how to please your partner

  • Avoiding disappointment

Click to go to this exercise:

Make emotional needs known

Know your husband/boyfriend or wife/girlfriend 

 

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17. SENSITIVITY to 'roles/specialties.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Feeling out-of-sync with your partner

  • Resentment feeling you are doing 'too much' for your relationship

  • Feeling relationship responsibility is unfairly distributed

  • Feeling unappreciated

Click to go to this exercise:

Marriage and committed relationship responsibilities

 

18. SENSITIVITY requires 'emotional self-management.' This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Fear and hatred that negatively impacts on your partner

  • Irrational guilt that negatively impacts on your partner

  • Expressions of hostile emotions

  • Creating a toxic environment in the family

Click to go to this exercise:

Evaluate emotional fitness for a marriage or committed relationship 

 

19. SENSITIVITY requires a willingness to take responsibility for one's past relationship mistakes, apologizing and making amends. This is a solution to the following problems:

  • Damage caused by anger expressions directed at your partner or children

  • Ignoring one's partner

  • Contributing to a sexless marriage or committed relationship

  • Taking responsibility for past mistakes reduces the likelihood that future mistakes will occur

Click to go to this exercise:

Repairing Relationship Mistakes


 

Let this GPS relationship map guide you to avoid relationship problems and fix one's that have already happened.

That's it! Go have a healthy, loving, and long-lasting marriage or committed relationship...

 

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