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Free marriage help: Catch Your Partner Doing “Something Right” – build positive relationship feelings

Sometimes we get in a pattern of noticing and even making lists of what we think our partner does "wrong." Doing so creates relationship tension, blinds us to the "good" our partner does and shapes a negative view with a corresponding feeling about our partner. In total, this can all be very harmful to your marriage.

This exercise will help you establish a new pattern of awareness. It requires you to find the good in what your partner does —  that is, you need to "catch" him or her doing something right.

Each day make a note of something your partner does that helps your relationship. Let your partner know that you appreciate what he or she did. Watch for times when you felt cared about, helped, or understood and try to identify specific things that led you to feel that way.

Record what you acknowledged and the response of your partner.

You may want to print this exercise for ease of use. Click the Print Friendly button above. From there you can also format this exercise into a PDF file or email it to a friend. Note: Printing from a computer works best.

Day 1

What did you "catch" your partner doing right?

 


 


 


If you acknowledged the good you noticed your partner doing (you said something positive to your partner about what he or she did), how did he or she respond?

 


 


 

Day 2

What did you "catch" your partner doing right?

 


 


 


If you acknowledged the good you noticed your partner doing (you said something positive to your partner about what he or she did), how did he or she respond?

 


 


 

Day 3

What did you "catch" your partner doing right?

 


 


 


If you acknowledged the good you noticed your partner doing (you said something positive to your partner about what he or she did), how did he or she respond?

 


 


 

Day 4

What did you "catch" your partner doing right?

 


 


 


If you acknowledged the good you noticed your partner doing (you said something positive to your partner about what he or she did), how did he or she respond?

 


 


 

Day 5

What did you "catch" your partner doing right?

 


 


 


If you acknowledged the good you noticed your partner doing (you said something positive to your partner about what he or she did), how did he or she respond?

 


 


 

Day 6

What did you "catch" your partner doing right?

 


 


 


If you acknowledged the good you noticed your partner doing (you said something positive to your partner about what he or she did), how did he or she respond?

 


 


 

Day 7

What did you "catch" your partner doing right?

 


 


 


If you acknowledged the good you noticed your partner doing (you said something positive to your partner about what he or she did), how did he or she respond?

 


 


 

Day 8

What did you "catch" your partner doing right?

 


 


 


If you acknowledged the good you noticed your partner doing (you said something positive to your partner about what he or she did), how did he or she respond?

 


 


 
This is a powerful exercise that will build positive feeling and directly contribute to a healthy relationship.

Be sure you continue to "catch" your partner doing something right even after you have completed this exercise.