Your partner's extended family is important to him or her. The members of your partner's family include parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. Showing respect, kindness, and being friendly with your partner's extended family is an important way of giving love directly to your partner.
When you coupled with your partner, you inherited his or her extended family. You may or may not like various members. Regardless, because of you love and respect your partner, you need to be pleasant with all of his or her extended family members.
If you happen to like various members of your partner's extended family, consider this a wonderful bonus. However, it is not the criteria that should determine how you treat them. You should always treat them well, because this is what your partner needs.
Certainly, you know how to be respectful and friendly with people you don't like. You know how to be respectful to an employer, a customer, a client, a neighbor, or a policeman.
Your treatment of these individuals is not dependent on your feelings about them, rather you understand that it is for your benefit to act pleasantly with them. The same is true with members of your partner's extended family. If you expect a healthy and happy relationship with your partner, you need to be pleasant to his or her extended family members.
Yes, it is that simple!
Note: If you understand the above, but your partner does not, you should still be pleasant to his or her extended family. You know that 'two wrongs don't make a right.' As well, being a role model for your partner bodes well for the future. Hopefully, he or she will understand that the way you are pleasant to his or her extended family, so too he or she should be pleasant to your extended family.
If you did not pass the test...
You understand that it is important to have a good relationship with your partner's extended family. However, the test you just took indicates that you are falling short of the necessary requirements to please your partner and give him or her love through having a good relationship with his or her extended family.
Here are three suggestions to help you better understand the need to be good with your partner's extended family and how to do it:
1. Speak to a family therapist or another relationship specialist who can explain to you how to get along better with your partner's extended family.
2. Find someone in your extended family or a friend who is skilled at building relationships and ask them to give you some useful tips.
3. Ask yourself the question: Imagine if I had an excellent relationship with members of my extended family, how would I like my husband or wife to treat them?