This is a 'textbook' on surviving infidelity and a best self-help book for women and men dealing with infidelity. It covers every aspect of marital and committed relationship cheating from beginning to its end. Glass explains how infidelity starts, what maintains this elicit relationship, what causes it to fall apart, what happens after the affair is over, who are its victims, what is recovery like or alternatively what happens to those married individuals that part ways as a result of the breach of trust caused by infidelity.
For those of you dealing with infidelity, there is probably no other book on the market today that has as much detailed information on every topic of surviving infidelity. Whether you are just discovering that your wife or husband has been cheating or you are focused yourself on getting over an affair, this book can be a vital road map.
Glass provides essential information gleaned from her clinical practice of working with 350 couples who are surviving infidelity, numerous research studies, and clinical expertise. This book includes many questionnaires to help you clarify in your mind how you feel and how to understand your situation and your options.
Because surviving infidelity is a very technical subject, Glass uses many stories from her clinical practice to help present the reader the intricacies, challenges, and opportunities for those who are caught-up in the infidelity storm. Each story is a window into the lives of real people who have suffered and struggled to regain their dignity and sanity.
Glass begins her book by debunking some of the common myths regarding infidelity. For example, that infidelity only happens in unhappy marriages or infidelity is the result of sexual attraction. Each page provides more and more information to help the reader understand why and how infidelity victimizes so many people.
After the affair has been discovered, Glass tells you what to do if you or your partner are ambivalent regarding the next step.
Glass explains how to find the correct marriage therapist to help you get past the pain and impasses of reconciliation.
Not "Just Friends" provides a wealth of information to help the reader getting over an affair make informed decisions regarding whether he or she should participate in marital reconciliation upon discovering that his or her partner has been unfaithful.
Glass points out that one of the difficulties in getting over an affair is that the unfaithful partner must become the healer. The unfaithful partner must move toward the pain and offer comfort to the betrayed. This process is like steering a ship through a storm. This book provides the navigation map needed to safely arrived at the desired destination.
The list of topics covered in this book is long.
For those of you who are looking for a simple and quick read, this may not be the book for you. It goes into so much detail for some it may seem overwhelming and perhaps even add to the confusion when in the midst of recovery after the affair has been revealed.
However, for those of you dealing with infidelity and you need to understand a situation fully before making a decision, this then is a great book for you.
Not "Just Friends," Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity, by Shirley P. Glass, PhD is a good read and a great resource. The information it provides is accurate, clinically sound, and is presented in a way that makes complicated relationship choices seem to be common sense decisions.
For those of you who are dealing with infidelity and its aftermath, this book, Not "Just Friends" can be a dependable and insightful voice guiding you through each step of your long journey.