Forgiving a cheating husband or a cheating wife — after much of the surviving infidelity work has been done — is proof you are on the recovering from infidelity road.
Without forgiveness, both you and your cheating wife or cheating husband will get stuck, and you will lose the opportunity to rebuild, repair, and make your marriage better than ever.
Janis Spring points out that sometimes we have to learn to accept a transgression by others, classed as a "bad deed." You need to weight up the entire wrong and decide how you can best forgive.
Forgiveness is an unconditional gift and cannot be earned. It has to be granted with emotion and the only person who can grant this is you — the victim who has been betrayed!
Remember this, when you even consider forgiving, first weigh up the truth. Think of the ugly, heavy burden you are carrying around all because you may feel you are too big, too proud to forgive.
For those dealing with infidelity and after the affair has ended, this healing book offers step-by-step instructions that will help you make peace with others and with yourself. No-one is that big that they cannot forgive and who does it benefit the most? YOU!
Being the hurt person, Janis Spring goes on to say in her book, does not mean you can proffer cheap forgiveness. You need to be sincere and only your heart can tell you when the time is right.
Offer up a small portion of the blame, however small, this may help you and… at the same time is well accepted by the transgressor as a token of the real you. Think hard about this before you decide not to forgive, it may change your mind!
True forgiveness puts you on the highroad and this benefits everyone.
This book by Janice Spring is a must read for all of you who are dealing with infidelity and — together with your partner — forgiveness will be an essential ingredient in as part of your overall surviving infidelity plan and marriage recovery.