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Current Affairs: When an Infant Is Born into Infidelity

Do some men cheat on their wives during pregnancy or immediately after the birth of a child?

The answer is an unequivocal, "Yes." I know this because I have met men and women in my counseling practice who have come to me to help them deal with this very problem.

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There is no 'right time' for a man or a woman to cheat on his or her partner. However, when a man cheats on his partner when she is pregnancy or immediately after the birth of a child it is 'deplorable.' 

As a man, I am not an expert in what it feels like to be pregnant, give birth, or recover from the ordeal of pregnancy and childbirth. However, general knowledge informs all of us that it is physically and emotionally demanding.

Given that a woman puts everything of value on the line to create a new member for the family, including her survival (some women do die during childbirth), to then have her male partner abandon her at this time for another woman comes close to being unforgivable. Her partner's loyalty is needed by her, and is required of him since he too is a partner in the creation of this child. Cheating at this point of time demonstrates an extra measure of callousness and insensitivity over and above 'ordinary cheating.'

Men who abandon their wives after they give birth to their child are the adult poster-children of selfishness. It is like the captain of a ship who when faced with a tragedy at sea saves himself first, and only afterward thinks about his crew and the passengers.

All cheaters may have explanations why they cheated, and some even have reasons that they feel can excuse this act of acute selfishness. Perhaps the new father feels insecure in his role as a parent, or perhaps his sexual appetite is left unfulfilled given his wife's need to deal with the ordeal of pregnancy, birth, and childcare. It may even be that a man's wife has postpartum depression and is unpleasant to be around. However, no excuse makes it okay and the cheating makes the 'problem' worse. It is morally abhorrent, and may even destroy the family.

A mature man dedicates himself to his family. If are problems in his relationship with his partner, whether they are caused by the birth of a child or there is another reason for the problem, in a family crisis, he 'mans-up' and does what he needs to do to protect and provide for the needs of each family member.

I can only imagine how devastated a woman must feel when going through the challenges of pregnancy and childbirth — which often include large amounts of discomfort and self-sacrifice — only to discover her male partner has abandoned her for another woman.

A woman needs her man to be with her at all times. For most women, the greatest need for partnership is during pregnancy, birth, and newborn child rearing. Even if the man has two left thumbs when it comes to helping with a newborn, when his wife knows he is committed, she feels safe and secure.

When a woman has an acute need for emotional support and physical help from her male partner, and the newborn depends on his or her father to get him or her off to a good start in life, a man's cheating at this time is a deplorable crime against mother and child.


Watch the video and learn how lying can impact on your relationships.

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Purchase my book Surviving Infidelity if you find yourself in a similar situation.  Available on Amazon. 

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Both the 'victim' and the 'cheater' need guidance on what to do to effectively recover from the trauma of infidelity and restore civility, trust, and peace into their marriage or committed relationship. 

 

Learn about Abe's Infidelity Recovery Services

Topics: How to get over cheating, Surviving infidelity